TED英语演讲稿：请别忘记感谢身边的人

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TED 英语演讲稿：请别忘记感谢身边的人

hi. i'm here to talk to you about the importance of

praise, admiration and thank you, and having it be

specific and genuine.

嗨。我在这里要和大家谈谈向别人表达赞美，倾佩和谢意的

重要性。并使它们听来真诚，具体。

and the way i got interested in this was, i noticed

in myself, when i was growing up, and until about a few

years ago, that i would want to say thank you to someone,

i would want to praise them, i would want to take in

their praise of me and i'd just stop it. and i asked

myself, why? i felt shy, i felt embarrassed. and then my

question became, am i the only one who does this? so, i

decided to investigate.

之所以我对此感兴趣是因为我从我自己的成长中注意到几

年前，当我想要对某个人说声谢谢时，当我想要赞美他们时，

当我想接受他们对我的赞扬，但我却没有说出口。我问我自

己，这是为什么? 我感到害羞，我感到尴尬。接着我产生了一个

问题难道我是唯一一个这么做的人吗? 所以我决定做些探究。

i'm fortunate enough to work in the rehab facility,

so i get to see people who are facing life and death with

addiction. and sometimes it comes down to something as

simple as, their core wound is their father died without

ever saying he's proud of them. but then, they hear from

all the family and friends that the father told everybody

else that he was proud of him, but he never told the son.

it's because he didn't know that his son needed to hear

it.

我非常幸运的在一家康复中心工作，所以我可以看到那些因

为上瘾而面临生与死的人。有时候这一切可以非常简单地归结

为，他们最核心的创伤来自于他们父亲到死都未说过“他为他们

而自豪”。但他们从所有其它家庭或朋友那里得知他的父亲告

诉其他人为他感到自豪，但这个父亲从没告诉过他儿子。因为

他不知道他的儿子需要听到这一切。

so my question is, why don't we ask for the things

that we need? i know a gentleman, married for 25 years,

who's longing to hear his wife say, "thank you for being

the breadwinner, so i can stay home with the kids," but

won't ask. i know a woman who's good at this. she, once a

week, meets with her husband and says, "i'd really like

you to thank me for all these things i did in the house

and with the kids." and he goes, "oh, this is great, this

is great." and praise really does have to be genuine, but

she takes responsibility for that. and a friend of mine,

april, who i've had since kindergarten, she thanks her

children for doing their chores. and she said, "why

wouldn't i thank it, even though they're supposed to do

it?"

因此我的问题是，为什么我们不索求我们需要的东西呢? 我

认识一个结婚 25 年的男士渴望听到他妻子说， “感谢你为这个

家在外赚钱，这样我才能在家陪伴着孩子，” 但他从来不去问。

我认识一个精于此道的女士。每周一次，她见到丈夫后会说，

“我真的希望你为我对这个家和孩子们付出的努力而感谢我。”

他会应和到“哦，真是太棒了，真是太棒了。” 赞扬别人一定要

真诚，但她对赞美承担了责任。一个从我上幼儿园就一直是朋

友的叫 april 的人，她会感谢她的孩子们做了家务。她

说：“为什么我不表示感谢呢，即使他们本来就要做那些事情?”

so, the question is, why was i blocking it? why were

other people blocking it? why can i say, "i'll take my

steak medium rare, i need size six shoes," but i won't

say, "would you praise me this way?" and it's because i'm

giving you critical data about me. i'm telling you where

i'm insecure. i'm telling you where i need your help. and

i'm treating you, my inner circle, like you're the enemy.

because what can you do with that data? you could neglect

me. you could abuse it. or you could actually meet my

need.

因此我的问题是，为什么我不说呢? 为什么其它人不说呢?

为什么我能说：“我要一块中等厚度的牛排，我需要 6 号尺寸的

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TED英语演讲稿：请别忘记感谢身边的人hi.i'mheretotalktoyouabouttheimportanceofpraise,admirationandthankyou,andhavingitbespecificandgenuine.嗨。我在这里要和大家谈谈向别人表达赞美，倾佩和谢意的重要性。并使它们听来真诚，具体。andthewayigotinterestedinthiswas,inoticedinmyself,wheniwasgrowingup,anduntilaboutafewyearsago,thatiwouldwanttosaythankyoutosomeone,iwould...

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